Financial independence is the key to surviving the hood. When a woman is financially independent, she has the ability to live a life, walk away from further pain and grief of the culture and family without terms. Irrespective of where you go or who you marry, as a woman you have to stand to be financially independent even if you don’t use it, be assured it will be of great use someday, if not to you directly but to someone dare of it’s need. And as a man you have to tidy your home in terms assets and wish by moments.
In widowhood, women suffer more suppression their whole lives, as she is faced with many kinds of deprivation: economic, social, cultural and emotional, with worst being when husband did not leave a Will or plan. Of all these, economic derivation is the most harmful. A widow faced with bills and hunger as the children stares at her is more vulnerable to abuse as she is completely disoriented;
That is why in marriages that are much more shared financially, a widow don’t get the disorientation of suddenly having to manage on her own as is the case of a stay home mother.
Surviving financially in Widowhood requires total discipline, the variation of this depends on individual previous knowledge and activities. The expectations from women by culture, religions and even her love, have seen to have worsened our situation in widowhood. #Submissive is a word abused, as a woman subjects herself to her detriment most often in marriage and when the unplanned happens she realizes that the planned was not a plan. As a man while exercising the patriarchal authority, take a pause and think of how empowered are your wife, daughters and sisters with policies, culture, economic and social facilities that will strengthen her recovery and survival in case of the unplanned.
Let’s start today, empower yourself and a next woman. The ability is in now, start where you are immediately. While we will live to a very ripe age, let’s plan as if we’re unsure.
A Widow's Window 